Over and over again, I notice the same kind of thing coming up. If a relationship truly isn't working for one partner, it also isn't working for the other. For example, sometimes one person wants to end a relationship, and the other person resists the change. But that doesn't mean the ending won't ultimately serve both partner's growth.
I also notice a lot of people struggling with feelings of guilt around making a change that affects others. Guilt is never anyones truth. It does not teach. It does not forgive. It does not allow us to see ourselves for who we are- people growing and learning through our experiences. We all have the autonomy and the freedom to create changes for ourselves and to try new things. Sometimes we are the one who wants to let go. Sometimes we are the one who resists a change or an ending. In both cases we can treat ourselves with gentleness, love and forgiveness.
Relationships are growth periods. If the growth period is over, we can approach the ending with gratitude and grace. We learned something from the relationship and now we can make space to learn about love again.